Be Fearless My Friend

Be Fearless My Friend

How familiar is the fear of failure to you? They say that when we are choosing what goals to pursue, we are mostly concentrated on how we are going to prevent losses instead of how we are actually going to achieve gains.

Shouldn’t we be more scared of being trapped with partners that we don’t belong with, jobs we hate and dreams that are not ours to pursue? Questions I ask myself every time when I feel that I’m not pushing myself outside of my comfort zone.

One of my favorite quotes when it comes to fear is: “If you’re not scared then you’re not taking a chance. If you’re not taking a chance then what the hell are you doing anyway?” There you have it.

Happy Monday ✨

Your NDS Duo,

xoxo

Don’t Settle

Don’t Settle

Don’t settle. Don’t settle for a guy, a job, a city, or ice cream with no chocolate. Don’t settle just because someone has told you need to figure all of the above right here and right now.

         Settling is not romantic. Settling doesn’t mean you are falling in love. Settling is just a decision that you are making but only out of fear of being alone. And let me tell you this: you are worth so much better.

       Don’t waste your time on people that you don’t care for. Don’t waste their time. It’s not fair. Don’t lead people on. Don’t feel bad for them, because that’s not what they want from you. No one wants your pity. No one deserves your pity. Communicate your feelings to people. Tell them how you feel, they will appreciate it later. Tell them the truth, tell them if there is someone else in the picture. Don’t hide it. Don’t kill their trust from step one. Losing trust is irreversible thing. You will never get that back again.

      Don’t settle. Your time is too valuable to spend it on people that you have no interested in, and your time is the only thing that you are entitled to in this life. They call it “your time” for a reason, so don’t waste it on people that don’t matter to you.

          No matter how old you are don’t let yourself forget to believe in love. It exists. It will find you, just don’t settle out of fear.

Your NDS Duo,

xoxo

Pause. Take a deep breath. Keep going.

Pause. Take a deep breath. Keep going.

       There are a few things that consume my energy and make me feel tired: negativity, stress, and worrying about things that are out of my control.

Tea time        Starting out our beauty and fashion blog has been an exciting journey, but also an exhausting one. We both have full time jobs, which means there are sacrifices we make to keep doing what we love.

Things as waking up at 6 am so we can meet for at least 3 hours every day/every other day and work on new projects. The idea of us creating something is what keeps us going. We feel accomplished. We know that we always have the choice to sleep in or to reschedule our weekly photoshoots, but then how we are going to succeed if we let tiredness be in charge?

Constantly being on the phone throughout the day can be very draining. Not only for us, but also for people around us. This is why we take it a little bit easy on Sundays, so we both can find space and time for our family and friends. Balance is key to success and to healthy living.

keep on moving forward

One of the things that we both find very helpful is power naps and yoga. If you take a 20 min nap you feel like a new person right after. I know it’s hard to find space and time, but trust me – it will change your life. Yoga is probably the only one time when we are able to take our minds off work. Technically that’s the only time when we are not thinking about work, but actually focused on something else, like poses and breathing. It helps to relax and take a step back, find the space where we can reconnect with our inner-selves.

          Whatever that is that makes you feel tired or exhausted it will all be worth it at the end – just don’t forget why you started. Pause. Take a deep breath. Keep going.

Your NDS Duo,

xoxo

 

 

 

You Will Want to Open Your Heart Again

You Will Want to Open Your Heart Again

          What is a heartbreak? If you ask me, then I will have various emotions and scenarios crossing my mind. It could go from “He didn’t love me back” to “We were not compatible”. In regard to that last one, I was convinced for the longest time that if you love a person, nothing else matters….Well, the distance from love to hate, or in worse case indifference, can be very short sometimes.

        I’m sorry to say it, but matters of the heart are just out of your control. This one is going to be hard for you to accept, but it’s out of his control as well. You can try all you want to stick it out and either command him to change or suppress your own identity, but you know the consequences: You two WON’T be happy. One day it will all go up in flames like a house filled with gasoline, and there’s a good chance that you will be the one to set everything on fire, because we ladies tend to run out of patience first.

          Whatever scenario comes to mind as you read this today, the end result is always “a broken heart”, whether it be yours or his. And I will tell you that knowing their heart is hurting because of you hurts even more. It’s that pain or heaviness in your stomach when you wake up in the morning. Sometimes I would even feel it through the day. Going through it it always tough. I hate those feelings. I truly do. The funny thing is that I always know what I am getting myself into. It’s a paradox, because all I ever want is to get out….right away. The question is, how?

          The only thing that I was capable of figuring out was to get myself a hobby, find a new purpose. You can try partying, going out or giving a shot to a dating app, but that will leave you empty inside once the party is over, when you return from your friend’s house or from yet another date. All you have to do is to stop looking for someone to fix you, to save you…The truth is, you have to do it yourself, all on your own. Yes, I’m sorry to say I don’t have any magic remedy or quick fix that will help you heal. It’s all in abstracts, but so is love. It’s empowering to know that whatever pain I felt before (and sometimes even now) is something I alone am capable of fixing, because who could ever know my heart better than me? Who would ever know what wounds are hurting and how to fix them better than me?

          So I came to the realization that the only way through heartbreak is to accept the fact that it hurts. Let it hurt for a little more. Let it fill up my lungs, my heart, my veins. I no longer try to fight it. That pain doesn’t want me to fight it. That pain doesn’t want me to pretend that it doesn’t exist. What is the easiest way of forgiving? It’s letting go. But in order to let go, you have to really feel it first. In order to let go, you need to cry with it, you need to hug it like baby, and only then can you say your goodbye. Take that as a lesson. Don’t get stuck on someone that has you stuck in the same spot. Move on. Trust me, the universe has someone very special for you, you just need to be willing to open your heart…again.

Your NDS Duo,

xoxo

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